Help! My husband and I have a friend that won't help himself better himself .?

Our friend lived with his mom. She treated him like a baby. She died, unexpectedly. He moved up here by us and our other friend. We have tried to help him better himself, by suggesting he go to a dentist(we even found a free dental clinic; he refused to go). Our other friend is trying to have him set up a budget. He does have a job, so there's no problem there. Maybe if he saw his and people's suggestions, he would be able to listen to our suggestions. We aren't trying to run his life; just try to help him. No snide remarks please.

Help! My husband and I have a friend that won't help himself better himself .?
you can not make someone "better them self" no matter what you do. whose to say that he can't live his life the way he wants to?
Reply:The sad truth is...there is nothing you can do to help someone that doesn't wanna be helped.





He won't change for you, he can only change for himself.
Reply:Just keep encouraging him. You've got to make sure you don't actively interfere. If he's content with himself as he is, then you should leave him be.





You've made offers of help and he's rejected them. I think it's time for you to wait for him to ask for your help. He may even end up doing these things on his own.
Reply:He is a grown man,and no one can make him grow up.Sounds like he has it easy, he lets his friends do his worrying for him.I wouldn't try too hard if I were you, he needs to stand on his own two feet.And personal hygiene is his matter.You sound like a good friend, don't get used out of the deal....They have to want to change to really do anything about it...